PSYCHIC GRIMOIRE

Original Post 02/20/2016

Which Way Home Documentary Review

I’m coining my own term, Familial Parasitism. The lesser spoken quality of human existence.

Whether it be psychological, financial, or cultural, it makes it no difference.

How do I define Familial Parasitism?
The overreaching concept of culture is the first thing that comes to mind. I watched a documentary Which Way Home, that brought up some troubling concerns.
It is a documentary about young children and young adults crossing the border from Mexico into the U.S. illegally at high risk of death, rape, or dismemberment.
I asked myself what is the cause massive reaction by the youth of that country?
I watched the children say things like “We didn’t have enough to eat or my step parent hated me or my mother wants a house for our family to live. I should go to the U.S. and send her my money.”

What this Review Is Not
What this review is not, is a focus on how hard a certain people have in in life. This is a look at the causes of this hardship and a critical viewpoint on those ideas that create these situations. This is not a review about suffering children. This is not a review about the current state of super-poverty. Poverty is in the eye of the beholder. Many of the people interviewed on this film about their children have large tracts of land and a home that is suitable to their country. This is a review about self-responsibility on parenthood, and the choices one makes in life. Putting the burden on the youngest and increasing their burden through pressure from the mothers in this documentary, is a recurring theme. For we should not be a society that raises children to raise us back in some kind of freakish reverse parenting. That is basically what these situations tend to display. Expectation of being taken care of in the future, and simply allowing your own children to exist to fulfill that expectation.

Mothers and their skewed expectations.
It seemed like more-or-less an issue in the family structure where the mothers would pressure the children in their apparenty already destitute situation, to go and make some cash. To make matters worse, one of the children described something similar and also added that his mother recently had another child. Putting an even larger strain on the older children that want to be their mother’s hero and saviors.
Other situations include mostly the mother finding a new husband where the new step-father treats the current children like nuisance strangers that come to take their food and lodging.

One  mother cheerfully described that she would like to see her son go to the U.S. to send her money so that she could have a house and other things. I’m aghast at the incredible ignorance.

Dismemberment and Investments
At basis, risking the life of a child had somehow equated to ‘being worth it’. As far as getting ahead in the money-game. Children were fine if they left for months at age 9 to hop a train with other shady characters and then suddenly if that child died or became dismembered it became a huge disappointment. Even if the parent knew the ride was dangerous, somehow it became a huge surprise when some had to collect their children from the morgue.

Is anyone following me here?
Given that Mexico is a Catholic country, the expectation between mother and child isn’t that difficult to figure out. Have many children, but no plan for them. Unless there is an even more horribly misconfigured cultural structure. It is my understanding also that the less educated families also have this unrealistic expectation that all children and future children are their investment in retirement. Extended families may work in more educated households, but in less-educated ones it becomes more of a parasitism from adult to child. The child being the one to bring in the income later on. And I’m not talking about when the adult is older in retirement age, but as soon as the child can work is the optimal time to start raking it it. Given that they haven’t been neglected so much that they still want to help their parents. There are many factors here.

Other Cases
There are stories that the Mexico border towns are ripe with welfare abuse. Which can be common in many locations, not only these particular people. At these border towns, the homeless shelters are home to many women who can no longer milk the teet of the government infrastructure once their wombs have dried up. Once they have carelessly and ignorantly ‘raised’ or actually farmed their children and then having being abandoned by their loin fruit investments, to then only  wonder why they themselves are suddenly neglected, forgotten, and starving.

When your son plays the real life children’s book story of “Are you My Mother”, except  with a perverse twist of “Are you my father”. You can imagine the embarrassment the children feel as they mature.

“No sorry I am not, go ask Pablo the mechanic if he’s your father. Or go try that whole row of businesses down that street where your mother had friends.”

Another discarded older woman in a homeless shelter described disowning her son because he was gay. Only to be disowned herself in her old age when he started making a good income and remembered his good treatment. As she fondly described being beautiful and obtaining jewelry and gifts from all the men she had  in her lifetime. And oh what a life it was, as she neglected her children.

Psychological Poverty equates poverty
Mexico is rife of stories where people would sell related children simply because they did not “like them”. Mothers that typically choose the fathers or newest boyfriend over their current children is also an issue.
Overall, those particular groups of people regard children as “Something that happens when you find a husband”. And so you get new ones each time you change your husband. The older children become obstructions to this new found income source. BUT, even they must provide income to the queen. *Evil Laugh*. And if they are too young to work perhaps begging on the streets would suffice for now.

Isn’t that what the husband is supposed to do?

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